How To Develop An Attitude Of Gratitude In Our Life?

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So today, I’m back with gratitude and why and how it is important to develop an attitude of gratitude in our life. And how with constant practice we can develop it.

A Purification of the soul

In Surah 31 Luqman Verse 12 Allah is telling us “be grateful to Allah for who is grateful, is grateful for the good of his own soul”.

Allah mentions gratitude many times in the Qur’an, here as being a purification of the soul.
A protection from envy, jealously, hatred and sadness which brings comfort to us in our life. Gratitude is one of the most powerful emotions given to us.

tawakkul -Full reliance on Allah
Tawakkul is full reliance on Allah

Is it easy to develop an attitude of gratitude in our life?

When everything goes well in our life it should be easier to show gratitude, but we don’t do it as most of the time, most of us take what we have for granted and don’t really appreciate it until it is taken away from us. When we are being tested, can’t see the end of it, and it seems as if, we are drowning, being submerged with one wave after the other or feeling shaken. Allah asks us to show patience and at the highest level to also show gratitude. But sometimes It is only after the relief of Allah comes, that we are able to show gratitude.

But we shouldn’t wait to be tested to show gratitude. We want to develop this habit and turn to Allah any moments of our life. Showing gratitude to Allah in good times is easier than waiting to be tested to show gratitude. Developing gratitude in our life is a practice that may take time.
It is a long term process which needs to be developed over time consistently. More at a time when we don’t always get what we want or when things don’t go the way we planned.

Allah will reward us by showing gratitude

In the Surah 3 Ali Imran  verse 145, Allah is telling us 
“And whoever desires a reward in the world, We shall give him of it and whoever desires a reward in the Hereafter, We shall give him thereof”.

  • Here, the Ayah mentions that whoever works for the sake of this life, will only earn what Allah decides he will earn. However, he will not have a share in the Hereafter. Whoever works for the sake of the Hereafter, Allah will give him a share in the Hereafter, along with what He decides for him in this life.
  • Next part of the verse says “And We shall reward the grateful”. meaning, We shall award them with Our favours and mercy in this life and the Hereafter, according to the degree of their appreciation (of Allah) and their good deeds.
  • Not a small reward, an endless one. In Surah 14 Ibrahim Verse 7 

And [remember] when your Lord proclaimed, ‘If you are grateful, I will surely increase you in favour
Allah tells us that if we are grateful he will increase us.
He doesn’t say how much or what reward we will get. There’s simply no limit

  • Allah rewarded Prophet Muhammad (saw) immensely. For all of his hard work and determination. He had to face the Quraysh every day. At some point in his life, it became really hard for him. When he lost his beloved wife Khadija (Ra) his uncle Abu Talib and his sons. Being mocked by the Quraish. His uncle Abu Lahab, celebrating the death of his son. Telling everyone he was cut off. How difficult it must have been? But Allah rewarded him, (saw) for his patience, determination and hard work. Prophet Muhammad (saw) gets the rewards from every Muslims on this planet now and before, for performing any acts of goodness.
  • In Surah 108 Al Kawthar the shortest Surah of the Quran is only about the abundant reward and comfort Allah gave our beloved Prophet Muhammad (saw). Al Kawthar in Arabic or Abundant good or abundant reward 

How do we show gratitude?

  • By focusing on what we have.
  • Changing our mindset to be more positive 
  • By looking at what goes well in our life. Knowing Allah always wants what’s best for us. 
  • Have Tawakkul trust Allah that everything coming to us is good for us. He knows the bigger picture and we don’t.
  • By having high expectations of Allah.

Why is it important?

Simply said, gratitude brings more happiness and contentment and peace in our life. By focusing our mindset on what goes wrong in our life or what we don’t have we might get obsessed with it. We will start to give place to Shaytan that will feed those thoughts into our mind and as a result ruining our life.

We want to get married and then have children and then a house and then more money It can be an endless and vicious circle.
We ask Allah what we want in our duas prayer but we don’t get obsessed over it.

Shaytan wants us to be ungrateful.

In surah 7 Al A’raf verse 17 Allah is telling us that shaytan will surround us from all side. “Then I will come to them from before them and from behind them and on their right and on their left, and You will not find most of them grateful [to You].” So we don’t let shaytan win over us.

According to a Hadith narrated by Ibn Mas`ud,

Allah has allotted character among you just as He has allotted your provision. Allah gives wealth to those whom He loves and those whom He does not love, but He gives Faith only to those whom He loves”.

If we always search for more we never enjoy the life we have. We never find happiness and contentment. And as a result, never succeed in life.
Showing gratitude in our life opens more doors to Goodness for our Deen and our life. When we show appreciation for the big and small things we have, it can really change the way we see things.

Al-Qurtubi reported: Umar ibn Al-Khattab, may Allah be pleased with him,

Heard a man saying, 

O Allah, make me among the few.” Umar said, “What is this supplication?” The man said, “I refer to the saying of Allah the Exalted: And few of My servants are grateful.” (34:13) Umar said, “All of the people know better than you, O Umar!” Source: Tafsīr al-Qurṭubī 34:13

Psychologists even today, are saying that when we show gratitude for our blessings every day, the world around us changes.

How grateful are we for our Religion?

In Surah 2 Verse 185 “Exalt Allah for having guided you and that you may be grateful”.

How grateful are we for our guidance? Our eeman or faith which we hold on to when we feel low or sad. It is one of the treasures of Allah
Look at this pandemic and how some people have nothing to hold on to. We have our Islam our solid rope and Allah to keeping us strong. We know and understand everything is in the control of Allah. We know that if we are patient grateful he will give us Khair or Good.

Being grateful for people around us.

Part of thanking Allah or God is also part of thanking people around us and show gratitude and appreciation for what they do for us.

Abu Huraira reported: The Prophet, peace and blessings be upon him, said,

Whoever does not thank people has not thanked Allah.” Source: Sunan Abī Dāwūd 4811 Grade: Sahih (authentic) according to Ahmad Shakir

All the good our loved one do to us is by the permission of Al Shakoor The Granter Of Good Deeds and Al Rahman the Most Compassionate. We Complain only to Allah we don’t complain to people as this is the total opposite of gratitude. And he is the only one who can fill us with what we need.

So yes my lovelies, gratitude is an essential quality that we all need to develop in our life. This can be easy for some and harder for others but it can offer us such a more peaceful contented life. Those advice are for myself first and foremost to apply, in my life constantly.

I would love to hear your comments and reflections on gratitude. Do you also think this is an essential quality to develop? Do you think this is something easy or difficult to do?

Peace, love and blessings to you.

Amanee the founder of naturaleeyou

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